I really am a firm believer in the fact that the patriarchy is damaging for people of all genders, including men, though. Obviously there is much more damage done to women and people who aren’t both sexed and gendered male, but I nevertheless believe that wherever there is institutionalised sexism, everyone is getting a bad deal. I’ve met guys who genuinely think that they’re just better than girls, or that all girls need a man, or that the only real men are big guys who play rugby or whatever. Because whenever they meet a strong woman who won’t take their crap, or find out that their buddy actually really doesn’t like sports that much and prefers ballet, thank you very much, they don’t know how to deal with it. It doesn’t fit inside how they think about the world, because their perception of other people is done through this pervading filter of inequality and enforced expectations and they just miss out on so much. They can’t interact with these strong girls, they lose touch with their friends, and they seem to feel unfulfilled somehow. Because by not treating everyone else as equal to them, they cannot have any real meaningful relationship with these people, or fail to pay attention to things they say or do.
Six years ago, I had a deal with Lifetime Television to develop my bestselling novel, The Dirty Girls Social Club, as a TV series. It soon became clear that the relationship wasn’t going to work, when two executives insisted that my pilot outline “wasn’t Latin enough,” because it told of middle class, educated American women who happened to be Latina.
“This reads as if it were about me and my friends,” complained one executive in disgust.
I didn’t know how to respond, so I asked her what she’d prefer.
“Why don’t we make the girls debating whether or not to date men in prison? I know that’s what Latinas talk about, just like it’s what black women talk about.”
people always want to talk shit about us when we complain about fucked up representation…but these are the conversations happening in board rooms. like, jesus fucking christ. fuck this planet.
we sure wouldn’t want women of color to be portrayed as normal people would we
This is a really important piece. Definitely worth reading.
I kinda wanna fight someone. God forbid you find yourself relating to people of colour. Also, as an almost-30 black woman I can tell you I’ve NEVER talked about with ANYONE about dating someone in prison. I literally have never known anyone who has gone my entire life.
whenever people write women superheroes being kind of bitchy to each other I just want to shake my head and be like no that’s wrong there’s literally nothing on this earth that could convince me that they wouldn’t all be friends and laugh at everything together
This series of photos gives me an enormous silly grin.
Those are some Super Best Friends Forever.
this post should be an every day thing
I think “everyday” interactions and relationship building between superheros/any fandom I’m in is what I’m really most interested in reading/watching at any given moment.
WHAT’S UP INTERNET
If you’re a gamer, you probably noticed all the new stuff being announces at the Electronic Entertainment Expo (E3) in Los Angeles. I’m super excited, especially about all the announcements from Sony and Nintendo.
Lots of people are excited for different consoles and their respective games, LIKE THE 3DS. So here’s your chance to win one! The winner will receive a red 3DS XL system (like new, used only a few times) with its original box, charger, manuals, and AR cards. Plus, the two latest killer apps for the 3DS, Fire Emblem: Awakening and Animal Crossing: New Leaf!
- Sadly, the 3DS is region-locked, so I am only shipping to the United States.
- Reblogs count, Likes do not. Reblog as much as you like, but try not to spam 50 reblogs in a row.
- If you make a fake, empty, giveaway blog or something like that to spam reblogs then all your entries will be invalid.
- I will need the winner’s address for shipping purposes, so you have to be comfortable with sharing this information.
The giveaway will end on Friday, June 21st and the winner will be announced on that day! Good luck!
So I’ve discovered a surprising number of people I know didn’t know this, and I thought it was a common trivia, so I think I’ll mention it here:
Considering the socio-norm back in the day was to marry young women between families as economical arrangements, a new bride would find the prospect of a (usually older) gentleman who demands sex (or at least, has the expectation of sex—for consummation of the marriage at the very least) to be terrifying and beastly, and can be seen a danger on her innocence and purity.
Going by the original tale: the beauty (new bride) is removed from her family and home (her comfort and the only place she knows) to go live with her new spouse out of an arrangement her father was forced into (an arranged marriage), bracing herself for the worst sort of monster—one who will be violent and rageful and subject her to a life of harm and terror… only to discover that, when she lives with the beast, he’s an intellectual thrill and a delight to bond with. Still, she does not love him, and so he allows her to return home (by her own choice!), only to discover she does indeed love him when she receives a vision that the beast is sick and dying. She rushes back to his side (again, by her choice!), and through this acceptance of friendship and newfound adoration, she sees her spouse not as a beast out to consume her or ravish her, but as a man and very human, and she learns to take charge of her own sexuality—becoming a woman in her own right.
It’s an easy story to paint as romanticizing an abusive relationship, so I think it’s a pity more people don’t realize it has its roots in empowering a woman’s own view of sex and her own sexual destiny!
/the more you know
aaaah, thank you.
People will call this story a case of Stockholm Syndrome and I just…
that’s not even the case at all.
when people are like “lol bestiality” i’m like DUDE IT’S A FUCKIN METAPHOR AND HE’S HUMAN
FUCKING THANK YOU OMG
Whenever someone calls Stockholm Syndrome on this story, I just wanna rjfhsedhe—
Guess what I’ve been plaaaying?
Also, shout out to snuffysbox.tumblr.com - I kinda sorta attempted her style of linework here because my gosh I love her work (if you haven’t seen it, check it ouuut!) but yeah. I guess I failed because it’s just ended up looking like my regular linework but thicker. OH WELL.